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Communicating One Brief Point at a Time
2012-05-31
Keeping your point or comment as short and simple as possible can be very helpful for good communication. The more detail added the more likely the person listening may be to forget what your main point is or to focus on less relevant aspects of what you are saying. It can also be helpful to only focus on one thought or idea at a time. There are times when many issues can be discussed at the same time with success. However, in more difficult or emotional conversations or if a conversation is not working, trying to stick with one idea at a time can improve the chances of issues being heard, understood and resolved. Feelings, however, may be discussed in clusters. For example someone may express feeling hurt, sad and frustrated. Though multiple feelings are being discussed, all the feelings discussed are still under a single category of feelings. Perceptions of a situation or the issues to be explored generally need to be limited to one aspect or idea at a time. For example, discussing camping plans may involve discussing when to leave, what to pack where to go and when to return. Even though the issues are related and interrelated (leaving to go camping sooner may also mean returning from camping sooner), discussing each aspect individually, at least until the individual issues are understood reasonably well, may lead to the most success in working out the overall issue being discussed.